For her, knowing that she wasn’t interested in something strictly casual helped her decide when the time was just right. With your heart racing at a mile a minute, your palms sweating, and your knees shaking, it’s completely understandable that you’d want to get “the talk” over with as quickly and painlessly as possible.Similarly, you should ask yourself whether it’s the right time to have this conversation or not. I didn’t want to be in a pre-dating/hooking up for six months like I [had been in the past],” Katie said. However, don’t think you’re getting out easy on this one.Those first few days, weeks, or even months into your hook-up can be a rollercoaster of emotions.
“It just is something that has to be done so both parties know where they stand,” our own Real Live College Guy Andy said.
When you’re ready to sit down and talk, Bogle adds that you should figure out exactly what you want, not only from “the talk”, but also for the future.
If you’re itching to have the relationship-defining talk, Bogle recommends that you take a step back and truly assess the relationship.
“Girls should avoid bringing up ‘the talk’ too early, not to avoid upsetting him, but because a girl cannot be sure how she feels about things evolving into a more serious relationship until some time has gone by,” Bogle says.
Katie*, a junior at Denison University, waited two months before sitting down and talking with her hook-up.