We’ve spent over 10 minutes tirelessly combing the limits of the interwebs – dissecting every nook and cranny, examining every loophole, instigating mass pandemonium – and ultimately, we’ve brought you back a list of 10 ridiculous Christian myths about dating that your ignorant friends probably believe. These are real quotes from real published articles, by the way. “The level of [men’s] lust is directly related to how much of our bodies is available to lust after. By this theory, the only way to really master the art of dating is to not do it.This is by far the weakest excuse for a cop-out I’ve ever heard, and yet it somehow manages to repeatedly eek its way out of the mouths of otherwise-brilliant pastors, authors, bloggers, and never-at-all-brilliant Twitter philosophers. The less we advertise, the less opportunity we give them to covet our bodies.” “When a guy gets ‘intoxicated,’ his body can’t help but react… “I’m not dating right now, so I can focus more on Jesus.” “We’re breaking up ’cause we feel like we need to just pursue God right now.” “I’m really attracted to her, and we have a lot of fun together, but I think I should just be focusing on my relationship with God right now.” As we all know, pursuing Jesus means discontinuing everything else in life. Unless a monastic lifestyle is your plan (more power to you), this sentiment doesn’t make any sense.If you want to truly understand how ridiculous this notion is, Real talk: modesty is great, and sexually-explicit Western culture does provide a challenging climate for men, but let’s not pander to the irresponsible and frankly ridiculous idea that it’s a woman’s responsibility to manage a man’s sex drive. If my experience serves me correctly, however, your memory of that command will probably be inversely proportional to the hotness of your potential date. This idea is primarily motivated by fear of voracious little sex drives running about, and like anything motivated by fear, it jumbles everything into a needless mess.This is one of those oft-quoted home-group rules for dating. Allow me to depict one’s commitment level in a healthy marriage: Now, allow me to depict one’s emotions while getting to know another human being: The dating process is your chance to experience the ups and downs of a real relationship without the pressure of flat-lining.If you’re emotionally broken or scarred, go get healing. But if you’re healthy, the only rule you need to follow is simply to be you.Self-development is important, but that’s about you, not about what you think some random bro wants to see.I’d rather be with someone ignorant who has a heart to learn than an expert who’s convinced she has all the answers. This is a favorite line of everyone who thinks their dating advice poops golden little marriage eggs.Everyone has advice to offer, and it’s usually the ones with the most ridiculously screwed-up relationship history that are most confident in raining that advice ceaselessly upon you.
Since you’re reading this on the internet, it’s probably true and should be shared repeatedly on your Facebook wall (actually you really should go ahead and share this right now… Identifying myth from fact can be difficult, and that’s why we’ve gone ahead and done all the heavy lifting for you.While there is obviously value to following the direction of Holy Spirit, ultimately, we weren’t designed to be obedient slaves, but rather, we were made to be sons and daughters. When we truly understand our place as sons and daughters of God, we aren’t bound by superficial rules. The single best way to destroy your life is to isolate from community and ignore all advice.) For the rest of you young people, I got news for you. You’ve been learning from your parents’ victories and mistakes for years, and you’ve also been watching the consequences of your friends’ actions, both good and bad. Healthy dating is as simple as being intentional and practicing good communication. Let the guru geese leave their golden droppings all over the sanctuary. No list of dating advice is complete without a call for careful prayer and explicit obedience in your dating relationship.