I don't think that money should be a big issue in dating, and I wanted to find someone who didn't car too much for money [M 24]. Not that money can buy love, but rather money is an essential part of the dating process.
I don't know if you can possibly have one without the other [F 24]. Like they try to buy each other or show how much they love each other in how much money they spend on the gift to the other person [F26].
The result, according to Waller's analysis was for both men and women to feign true love while attempting to secretly remain indifferent.
After the World War II disruption of domestic dating, the marriage boom helped precipitate the baby boom which lasted into the 1960s in the U. Bailey (1988) notes that by 1950, going steady had completely replaced the rating and dating complex.
I spent so much money on the girl that I had to quit school for a quarter and work full time. In America, money seems to have taken a big role in dating. Like the Beatles song, I believe strongly that "money can't buy me love".
True love is developed through true friendship and trust, and generosity is only one of those features.... I guess I find it difficult to separate love from money.
American dating, mating, and courtship activities employ money and tangible gifts as key ritual elements and as focal symbolic vehicles.
Material generosity by males and sexual generosity by females continued to be taken as signs of love (Katz 1976).Treating dating as an exchange relationship may threaten to commoditize and destroy the illusions provided by the romantic model of love. Where the eighteenth-century man had looked to provide a simply furnished house for his family, men who married in the increasingly industrialized middle years of the nineteenth century set higher standards for themselves.The present study presents a brief historical perspective and qualitative data that illuminate the tabooed and neglected intersection of the material, the sexual, and the romantic in the dating practices of U. They aspired to equip their households with cook stoves, pianos, Irish servant girls, indoor plumbing, or whatever they and their families needed to enjoy and demonstrate middle-class status (Rothman 1984, p. At the same time, it was the responsibility of the bride and her family to provide a trousseau of clothes, linens, and "fancy things" to set up the household.Bailey (1988) summarizes the effect of these changes succinctly: "Money -- Men's money -- became the basis of the dating system" (p. With increased expenditures on dating by men, they began to regard dating as an investment in sexual pleasure: "..planned and paid for 'a good time' and asked of their girls a bit of physical intimacy" (Modell 1983).Another trend that started in the 1920s was detected by Waller (1937) a decade later and dubbed "the rating and dating complex." This involved a woman dating many desirable men for the prestige value of appearing popular: In order to have Class A rating they must belong to one of the better fraternities, be prominent in activities, have a copious supply of spending money, be well-dressed, 'smooth' in manners and appearance, have a 'good line,' dance well, and have access to an automobile (Waller 1937, P. Coeds were seen to lose prestige if they dated less desirable men, dated too few men, or accepted last minute dates.